Do you want to become a more disciplined person?
Now you might be thinking the answer is building consistent habits, but that's not it, it's something different and it's hidden in plain sight.
In the book, The Power Of Habit, by Charles Duhigg, he discusses a study in Scotland in the 1990’s involving patients of knee replacement surgeries.
Now, if you know anything about this type of surgery, you will know that movement and physical rehabilitation is crucial almost immediately after the surgery is done if the patient is going to fully recover their mobility.
But there's a problem, moving after a knee replacement is agonizing, it's incredibly painful. And for that reason, a lot of people who get this type of surgery never fully recover.
So the psychologist took about 60 of these patients and had them write down specific detailed plans on paper of how they were going to go about their recovery.
And something remarkable happened.
The patients who actually wrote down a plan for what they were going to do are much more likely to do it and push through the pain when it came.
And another favorite example was a man who committed to walking to the bus stop every day to meet his wife as she came home from work.
And that right there is the key to self-discipline.
It's hidden in plain sight in that example, and in interactions that we have with people every single day.
The key is accountability, you could also call it duty, the obligations we have to each other.
When your boss tells you to be at work at a specific time, you are there at a specific time because your boss is relying on you.
When a child you take care of needs to be picked up from school you do it because they are relying on you.
But what about our personal goals?
What about that consistent healthy diet you’ve been wanting to keep, or the workout routine you're trying to stick to?
With these personal goals, there's nobody else really relying on us.
So we can't really tap accountability to improve our self-discipline, can we?
Well, actually we can.
And in this post, we're going to explore a model called:
The Five Levels Of Self-Discipline.
Each level in this model has to do with a different type of accountability that can be applied to improve your levels of self-discipline.
Four levels in this model have to do with our relationships to other people.
And they are the most powerful levels, but the first one is worth mentioning as well.
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